Category Archives: Relationships

Mettā sutta – part 1

The Mettā sutta (from the Pali language) has been chanted for millenia, by many people, in many languages. In the next few posts, I’ll be looking at it in sections (in English) and reflecting on why it is so important … Continue reading

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What about love?

We are sometimes confused about the nature of love, and this confusion is well-founded, because love and attachment are often (or usually) intertwined. There’s a pertinent sutta in the Middle-length discourses of the Buddha, #87, “Born from those who are … Continue reading

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Guardians of the world

Sometimes at Buddhist ceremonies, laypeople are given “protection cords”, bracelets made of thread that we are meant to wear until they fall off. If we ask what the cords are protecting us from, the answer most often given is “from … Continue reading

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Tis the season

It hasn’t escaped my notice that the end of the calendar year is upon us. In most cultures, it’s a time of renewal, of celebration, of gathering, and of joy. How we perceive the activities of the season will vary … Continue reading

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Hello anger

The second of the hindrances is ill-will. It covers a lot of ground from minor irritation to rage, and includes dislike, annoyance, resentment, aversion, frustration, anger, hostility, impatience, and hate (in addition to irritation and rage). General grumpiness could also … Continue reading

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How to support a suffering friend

When someone we know is ill or suffering a great loss, there are many ways we can help and just as many ways in which we can unconsciously harm. Often when we don’t know what to say, we either avoid … Continue reading

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Start where you are

Having thought for a few weeks about mindfulness and how to appreciate and develop it in ourselves, it might be a good time to figure out what our current status is with respect to our growth as individuals. Readers of … Continue reading

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