Category Archives: Relationships

Hello anger

The second of the hindrances is ill-will. It covers a lot of ground from minor irritation to rage, and includes dislike, annoyance, resentment, aversion, frustration, anger, hostility, impatience, and hate (in addition to irritation and rage). General grumpiness could also … Continue reading

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How to support a suffering friend

When someone we know is ill or suffering a great loss, there are many ways we can help and just as many ways in which we can unconsciously harm. Often when we don’t know what to say, we either avoid … Continue reading

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Start where you are

Having thought for a few weeks about mindfulness and how to appreciate and develop it in ourselves, it might be a good time to figure out what our current status is with respect to our growth as individuals. Readers of … Continue reading

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Speech that has value

The last of four sub-types of right or skilful speech (after truthful, harmonious, and gentle speech) is refraining from empty chatter; not gossiping or blathering just to fill a silence. Useless speech could be defined as words that cloud rather … Continue reading

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Right Action – the social contract

The second of the three factors in the “ethical” or “morality” section of the Eightfold Path is Right Action. For laypeople (that’s us) this refers to the five precepts: “I undertake the training rule to… refrain from killing, refrain from … Continue reading

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Right Speech

A monk visiting our local monastery this week talked about the tools we have in our toolbox to facilitate awakening. He initially spoke of concentration and insight practice but later expanded the analogy to discerning the hindrances and knowing our … Continue reading

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Acceptance as equanimity

Anguttara Nikaya 5.57 (a sutta from the Pali canon) is a regular theme in these pages. Bhikkhu Bodhi’s translation of the complete sutta can be found on the main site (AN 5.57). We’ve been thinking about equanimity, so I re-visit … Continue reading

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