Category Archives: Relationships

Taking care with sexuality

I undertake the training rule to abstain from harming living beings; I undertake the training rule to abstain from taking what is not offered; I undertake the training rule to abstain from from sensual misconduct; I undertake the training rule … Continue reading

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Back to the Beginning

We’ve been covering some lofty ground of late; encouragements (I hope) to deeper mindfulness and wisdom in our lives. These thoughts lead me back to where it all must begin, with our words and actions, our responses to the people … Continue reading

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Mettā sutta – part 1

The Mettā sutta (from the Pali language) has been chanted for millenia, by many people, in many languages. In the next few posts, I’ll be looking at it in sections (in English) and reflecting on why it is so important … Continue reading

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What about love?

We are sometimes confused about the nature of love, and this confusion is well-founded, because love and attachment are often (or usually) intertwined. There’s a pertinent sutta in the Middle-length discourses of the Buddha, #87, “Born from those who are … Continue reading

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Guardians of the world

Sometimes at Buddhist ceremonies, laypeople are given “protection cords”, bracelets made of thread that we are meant to wear until they fall off. If we ask what the cords are protecting us from, the answer most often given is “from … Continue reading

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Tis the season

It hasn’t escaped my notice that the end of the calendar year is upon us. In most cultures, it’s a time of renewal, of celebration, of gathering, and of joy. How we perceive the activities of the season will vary … Continue reading

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Hello anger

The second of the hindrances is ill-will. It covers a lot of ground from minor irritation to rage, and includes dislike, annoyance, resentment, aversion, frustration, anger, hostility, impatience, and hate (in addition to irritation and rage). General grumpiness could also … Continue reading

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