Category Archives: Dukkha

Reviewing ourselves

In the monastic community, giving and accepting criticism of each others’ behavior is a standard part of the training. In lay life we tend not to welcome any indication that we or our views are not perfect. However, we rarely … Continue reading

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It’s not the same

An underlying cause of unease is our desire for stability, for predictability, for security. We get nervous when people or things change in unexpected ways. When someone says, “It will never be the same again”, I automatically think: “Well, it … Continue reading

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Children and attachment

In a recent issue of Buddhadharma: The Practitioner’s Quarterly (Spring 2017), in the department called “Ask the Teachers”, the question posed is “How do I reconcile parenting with nonattachment?” I recommend the journal itself (https://www.lionsroar.com/category/buddhadharma/), and this article in particular. … Continue reading

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Understanding dukkha

One useful definition if dukkha is not getting what we want, and getting what we don’t want. We are constitutionally inclined to want stability, reliability, and predictability, even more than we want pleasure. But all of our experience is characterized … Continue reading

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What is dukkha?

A dear friend told me recently that when she heard that the first noble truth was “life is suffering”, she felt that Buddhism couldn’t be for her. This is so common a misunderstanding of the first truth that I feel … Continue reading

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Flowing vs. fixating

A woman or a man, a householder or one gone forth, should often reflect thus: ‘I must be parted and separated from everyone and everything dear and agreeable to me.’ -From AN 5.57 (translated by Bhikkhu Bodhi) ALSO, we must … Continue reading

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Fear and refuge

Dhammapada verses 188-192, translated by Gil Fronsdal: People threatened by fear Go to many refuges; To mountains, forests, Parks, trees, and shrines. None of these is a secure refuge; None is a supreme refuge. Not by going to such a … Continue reading

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