Category Archives: Compassion

Life partners

We come now to the third of the six directions to be protected: our spouses and partners. There are five ways in which a husband should minister to his wife as the western direction: by honoring her, by not disparaging … Continue reading

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Our teachers

Continuing our exploration of the Sigalovada Sutta, we come to the “southern direction”, which is next after east if we move in a clockwise direction. After our parents, usually the next significant relationships are with our teachers. Throughout our lives, … Continue reading

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Our relationships

Following along in Bhikkhu Bodhi’s book, The Buddha’s Teachings on Social and Communal Harmony, we move our focus now from intentional communities to “natural” communities. These start with family and extend outward to all the other relationships in our lives. … Continue reading

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Counterproductive instincts

In the last post, one outmoded survival instinct was noted: self-preservation that sometimes appears as ego sensitivity. A couple of years back, a very wise letter appeared in the New Yorker magazine in response to a previous issue’s article on … Continue reading

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Blanket apologies

Apologizing and accepting apologies is an essential activity within communities if they are to be harmonious, yet it is often hard to find the best way to handle the process. If we’ve hurt someone and know it, we can apologize … Continue reading

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Conflict resolution

When it comes to conflict resolution, there are many things to consider, and the Buddha had a lot to say about the process. Most of his examples are set within the monastic community, but the concepts can be widely applied. … Continue reading

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How to change

There is a well-loved verse from the Buddha’s teaching. It can be found in the Dhammapada (#5) and also in MN 128. (translated by Gil Fronsdal) Hatred never ends through hatred. By non-hate alone does it end. This is an … Continue reading

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