Category Archives: Anger

Patience

The hindrances are not our fault, but they are our responsibility. Greed and hatred in particular are not things we should blame ourselves for; they are part of the natural, imperfect world. At the same time, if we let them … Continue reading

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Goodbye anger

Confronting our own ill-will is hard, but if we are to make any headway towards a peaceful heart (let alone liberation from all suffering) we must make the effort. Example: Let’s say someone we know makes a forceful, bossy, cutting-off … Continue reading

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Hello anger

The second of the hindrances is ill-will. It covers a lot of ground from minor irritation to rage, and includes dislike, annoyance, resentment, aversion, frustration, anger, hostility, impatience, and hate (in addition to irritation and rage). General grumpiness could also … Continue reading

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Sublime abidings

Mettā is a Pali word that doesn’t translate well into English. Some words/phrases that come close are: loving-kindness, loving friendliness, benevolence, radical acceptance, non-aversion. For our purposes, we can accept any or all of these meanings and we will be … Continue reading

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Reviewing ourselves

In the monastic community, giving and accepting criticism of each others’ behavior is a standard part of the training. In lay life we tend not to welcome any indication that we or our views are not perfect. However, we rarely … Continue reading

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How to change

There is a well-loved verse from the Buddha’s teaching. It can be found in the Dhammapada (#5) and also in MN 128. (translated by Gil Fronsdal) Hatred never ends through hatred. By non-hate alone does it end. This is an … Continue reading

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Conflict

Since communities, whether large or small, are composed of human beings, they are inevitably exposed to tensions caused by human frailties. The innate propensity for self-aggrandizement, craving for personal benefits, self-righteousness, and attachment to personal opinions can lead to factionalism … Continue reading

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